Honesty often times is painful. It must be excrutiating for some, look how far John McCain and Sarah Palin go out of their way to avoid it. Often times we use the excuse that is okay to tell little white lies to save anyone from hurt feelings, but that is only an avoidance of hurting your own pride for having the feelings. Be honest and you’ll be better for it.
Recently, I was accused of being a horrible misserable person because I admitted I am not excited about the baby. I can live with that. It is true, despite the fact she is due in twenty three days, I am not excited. If she asked me a dozen years from now what I felt about her being born, I’ll be honest. If you expect your kids to tell the truth you need to do the same with them.
What will I tell her? I’ll tell her I wasn’t excited about having another baby. I will tell her if she asks whether or not I thought Katy should have had an abortion immediately when she found out she was pregnant. I will tell her not to judge me by what I thought or felt about her before she was born, but by what kind of father I have been to her.
Will my answers hurt, not if I have done my job right as her father. I may not be the guy who coaches her soccer team. I may not be the guy who says look what you can make of your life. I may not be the shining example of a lot of things, but I will always be the father that did his best to take care of her and the person who never lied to her.
Originally posted 2008-10-16 14:55:49. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
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