August 4, 2008 by Brad
Filed under Parenting Course
Unless you live in a Leave it to Beaver world that only exists in your head you have probably said “Fuck” in front of your children. You have probably said worse than that and gone through George Carlin’s entire list at one point in time. Oh there are those who never say, “Fuck”, much less do it. For them, Gee, Golly, Gosh, Darn and fudge are strong enough curse words and they fucking well say them too.
I am not advocating you teach your aspiring infant to say motherfucker, much less anything they could learn by watching Deadwood. They will pick up this sort of language all on their own. They shouldn’t be denied the same sense of fulfillment of learning forbidden knowledge the rest of us had. It is part of growing up.
Those who hate the word Fuck will tell you, “The F-word has become pervasive in our culture.” I laugh every time I hear that, because they are mostly right. Fuck most certainly has penetrated every fold of our culture, except that deep crack where those who feel the need to tell us how bad the “F-word” is reside. It is almost funny that they can talk about the “F-word” while denying the word Fuck is part of their own vocabulary. You can hardly talk intelligently about something you have no knowledge of.
In the end it is up to you to decide what your kids hear out of your mouth. If Fuck comes out of it sometimes, then it only proves you live in the real world. Don’t get bent when other turn up their noses and open their mouths about the language we might utter in front of our children. If You take nothing else away from this parenting course, remember those with such high brow contempt for us common folk and our language also think the pervasive nature of tolerance, equality, and diversity are just as evil as fucking.
Sphere: Related ContentRelated posts:
- Liam and “The New Pet” var AdBrite_Title_Color = '7A3254' var AdBrite_Text_Color = '000000' var...
- Language and Your Kids var AdBrite_Title_Color = '7A3254' var AdBrite_Text_Color = '000000' var...
Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.
Shelly M. on Tue, 5th Aug 2008 11:45 pm
MANY parents in the real world do not say Fuck in front of their children. Many parents, who live in the real world, trim that vocabulary from their language FOR their children.
I have been a foster parent who has agonized with some of my foster children who came to our home spouting the garbage that their birth parents were using in their presence. One little four year old boy came to our home calling everyone mother fuckers. I can tell you from experience that saying that word in front of children is not only bad parenting “because it is a shocking word” but it is bad parenting because the child learns that speech is one more way to abuse people.
I certainly hope that people who read the post you’ve written know that if their child were ever, heaven forbid, placed into foster care that the language the child uses CAN and WILL be used against them in a court of law. The language that came out of our foster childrens’ mouths had to be noted. Why? Because their speech directly related to how their parents were rearing them. Saying Fuck is the top of the list for bad parenting.
Here is your parenting lesson. Real parents shut the fuck up in front of their children! Real parents in the REAL world can control their language for the sake of their little ones. Fuck is something you say when you aren’t intelligent enough to think of anything constructive to say.
And for the record, I do indeed fuck. I have said fuck in the presence of adults and I am a Christian of all things! WTF!!! You need to get out more often. Your “real world” is in dire need of updating.
Shelly M.s last blog post..STORAGE FOR A SMALL BATHROOM
Brad on Wed, 6th Aug 2008 10:21 am
Fuck is as emotional and visceral of a word as it is an action. If your “Fuck You” isn’t heated and passionate, but rather planned you most certainly are saying it only for its shock value, and being obnoxious. If you use alternate words that you had to think about then you sound contrived and are just as obnoxious as you would be for planning to say “Fuck”
Assuming this four year old learned “Mother Fucker” from his parents and they did nothing to disuade him from saying it, then they most certainly weren’t doing a very good job of parenting. That probably wasn’t their biggest failure as parents either. If you think saying “Fuck” tops your list of bad parenting, then you most certainly need to meet a few more bad parents, including some of the foster parents my friends had. Some of them were convicted of “Fucking” their foster kids.
Fostering kids doesn’t mean you actually live in the real world, Shelly. In fact, if you are doing your job right, it means you are doing your best to protect those kids from the harsh gritty world that uses “Fuck” in its everyday lexicon. Kids in foster care, are usually there because they have had enough of the real world. As I said before, a proper “Fuck” isn’t something you plan to say in front of kids. It is something that pops out because it was the word emotions called from your vocabulary. If you say it in front of your kids, it is no big deal because if you are doing the rest of your parenting jobs well enough they won’t repeat it. Secondly the younger these kids are and the bigger the deal you make of the word, the more likely they are to repeat it as an important adult word.
The English speaking world says “Fuck” freely. It is pervasive, and nothing will change that. It is a real world word, that real world people and real world parents sometimes say it in in front of their kids. It is just how the world is. Move on to something more important like letting them know when they are older and more responsible that it doesn’t matter what color, religion, or sex the person is they “Fuck”, so long as they respect them for being a person.